July 2008

Bounce Back, Dammit!

My friend, Karen Salmansohn, author, personality, and satellite radio jock has a great interview show on the Lime channel on Sirius called, Be Happy Dammit. Take some time and treat yourself to a few of her episodes in podcast form. I've been in the studio with her a couple of times--she's very smart and very entertaining.

The tagline on her blog is, "Self Help for People Who Wouldn't be Caught Dead Reading Self Help." If that doesn't make you want to read her stuff, then I don't know what will. And she's sold more than a million books, so she's written a whole boatload of stuff.

Karen's written a new, great little ditty called The Bounce Back Book, and she was kind enough to share this essay excerpted from it. If you've ever experienced uncertainty, setbacks and losses (if you are, in other words, a human being), and especially if you've lost a job recently, you'll want to take note.

So, without further ado, here's Karen "Not Salmon" Salmansohn:

Today's business world is especially challenging -- with economic unrest and rapid changes in infrastructure. If you recently have been let go, here are some tips to make sure you bounce back:

1. If you've just endured a career adversity, join the crowd--and by the way, it's a very distinguished successful crowd. Many members of the Fortune 500 Club could easily earn membership in the Misfortune 500 Club. Successful people are not people who never fail. They're people who know how to fail really, really well.

If they fall on their faces, they use that leverage to push themselves up higher. Bill Gates actually relishes the lessons of failure so much, he purposefully hires people at Microsoft who have made mistakes.

"It shows that they take risks," says Gates. Harvard business school professor John Kotter says it's more worrisome to executives if a job applicant claims they've never failed--because this means they've never taken risks.

Roberto Goizueta, Coca-Cola's CEO, says the risk-taker mentality is the very reason he hired back the guy who launched New Coke--a huge marketing failure. Goizueta recognized how you can become uncompetitive if you're not tolerant of mistakes. In fact, if you let 'avoiding failure' become your motivator, you¹re going dangerously down the path of inactivity.

"You can stumble only if you're moving," he says. So if you recently stumbled and fell in your career, re-focus on how your risky thinking makes you more knowledgeable. Own the positive lesson learned --as proof you are an outside-the-box valuable thinker. See work failure as 'fullure'--full of many lessons.

2. Think like a lion about your firing! Graham Thomas Chipperfield, a star lion tamer with Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus, got bitten by Sheba, one of his 500-pound lionesses. Before the mauled Chipperfield got back into the cage, he made very sure to see what happened from Sheba's point of view.

He recognized how lions tend to think of the trainer as another lion. And so when Chipperfield bounded into the cage to help out Sheba--by breaking up a fight between her and another lion--Sheba merely figured Chipperfield wanted to join in the fight too. Did Chipperfield sit around blaming Sheba for her inaccurate thinking? No.

Instead he took the time to see the biting from Sheba's perspective, so he'd make sure this bad event would not happen again. For this reason, many therapists--beginning with Freud--have clients create a 'mimesis' -- meaning they role-play the situation from the offending party's perspective.

The hope is that, through this mimesis role-playing, patients might better understand why someone might have emotionally taken a bite out of them, so they can avoid being bitten again!

Your Assignment: If you've been fired, rejected, yelled at-- any/all of that -- take the time today to try to see things from 'Sheba's Point of View' so you can perhaps avoid being fired - rejected -- yelled out again. Plus this exercise will help you lessen your anger at those Shebas in your life.

3. If you ask depressing questions, you will 100% get depressing answers. For example it does no good to ask yourself: Why didn't I ... ? What if . ..? Why me?

Would you accept some of the mean and nasty questions you ask yourself if they came from an outside source? Doubtful! So you gotta stop -- and swap -- immediately for these questions which bounce you upward: What can I do to move forward? How can I grow from this challenge? What¹s within my control to change?

4.Shrink negativity into nuggetivity. Limit the amount of time you allow yourself to think negative thoughts to 3-minute nuggets, three times a day. Set aside a specific time of day when you will allow yourself to think negative thoughts. Whenever a negative thought enters your head, tell yourself you can't think about it until your preset Negativity Appointment.

Who knows, maybe you won't even want to think negatively once this time swings around.

Posted by steve at 07.28.2008 | Comments (1)

Hug Team

This just in from the Central Penn Business Journal:

It's not about the hugs themselves, really. It's about working with people who are hug-worthy, who inspire that kind of love and affection in you.

So says Clear Channel Radio sales director, Anne Carnathan.

Read her article here.

Posted by steve at 07.08.2008 | Comments (1)

To Chutzpah!

My good friend and colleague, Ron Schultz, who is, among other things, a tireless advocate for the cause of social entrepreneurialism, has written a wonderful column on Applied Chutzpah, which he defines as,

"A willingness to step forward into audacious action even though one may have no idea how one will either pull it off, or where it will ultimately lead. The only real knowing at the moment of Applied Chutzpah is an intuition that if some audacious action were not initiated, nothing would get done." (Please download the whole article here).

("Chutzpah," in fact, may have been a better word than "audacity" in my Extreme Leadership model, except that The Radical Lecp would have been much harder to pronounce.)

And in that spirit of Applied Chutzpah, Ron has launched The International Social Action Film Festival, which will commence in locations all around the world on September 11, 2008--and if either you or someone you know is an aspiring film maker, you still have time to submit your work!

It'll be an event that promises to inspire chutzpah, audacity, and Extreme Leadership in all who attend.

Posted by steve at 07.06.2008 | Comments (1)

A GTY Lesson from Youth Lacrosse

In this short video, Boom Daniel offers a GTY example from the world of youth lacrosse and challenges business people to take the lesson to the office. Click here to watch: it's already cued up to the right spot.

What's your GTY story? Write it up or put it on video, send it along to me, and I'll post it here.

Maybe you'll get famous for all the right reasons.

Posted by steve at 07.04.2008 | Comments (0)

For the second year in a row, this site has been named a finalist for the Best of Leadership Blog competition hosted by author, Kevin Eikenberry over at the Remarkable Learning blog.

The contest runs through the month of July, so you have some time take a look at the nominees and cast your vote.

The 2008 winner will be announced August 4 on Kevin’s Blog and in his weekly newsletter, Unleash Your Potential.

Kevin says that he and his team "created the contest to give leadership bloggers the opportunity to spread their wisdom more broadly and for readers to gain from that. It was definitely a success last year with more than 1,000 voters and increased awareness about all the nominated blogs."

Very true.

For example, blogger Guy Harris just found Extreme Leadership through Kevin's contest. Take a look at his blog to see his response to the idea of GTY.

Thanks, Kevin.

Gotta love the blogosphere...

Posted by steve at 07.03.2008 | Comments (0)